I was hoping for incisive posts like this, so thank you!

I enjoyed the examples you provided and linking your experience to fandom more broadly with the AO3 stats (how depressing) and Bechdel test. Thank you for admitting that you've got it wrong in the past, too - I think that worries a lot of people (I find myself hesitating about writing some disabilities for that reason) but your post encourages me to try and then if I mess it up to try again and fail better :-)